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How to help your child make friends

By Elaine Hodgins / October 21, 2020 /

In today’s world, friendship “groups” are so important. I can’t tell you how many mums and dads call me and say; Can you help my son/daughter – she seems to have so much trouble finding a friendship group – there must be something wrong with her! Many friendship groups begin in preschool or reception class,…

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How to help a child when a parent commits suicide

By Elaine Hodgins / October 14, 2020 /

A parent’s death is always painful for any child, but a parent’s death by suicide, especially a mother’s suicide, research has shown, will have an even more devastating and disturbing effect on the child. How successfully they will recover depends on the way the child is supported emotionally all the way through processing their feelings. …

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Does your child struggle with attachment issues? (RAD)

By Elaine Hodgins / October 7, 2020 /

What is attachment? Attachment is the connection (deep connection) between parent and child (the primary caregiver whoever that may be!) This deeply affects the child’s ability to display their emotions and to build relationships with friends and loved ones in the future. A lot of children have attachment issues for various reasons, but they can…

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Fear of Halloween – It’s NOT fun for some!

By Elaine Hodgins / September 30, 2020 /

Fear of Halloween? Samhainophobia is the fear of Halloween or the fear of the Feast of the Dead. The word Samhainophobia originates from ‘Samhuin’ which means “the end of the summer”. The Samhain festival was celebrated by the Celtics for marking the change between between summer and winter. The word Samhuin  means ‘All Hallows Eve’. Where…

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Give Your Child The Gift Of Resilience

By Elaine Hodgins / September 23, 2020 /

Helping your child to build resilience helps their character, their success at school, helps them to want to take on new challenges, and encourages them to have a more positive approach to life in general. Resilience, in learning, helps children to persevere through difficult tasks and also allows them to take the risk of making…

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Tantrums and Meltdowns – but the child is not a toddler! (DMDD)

By Elaine Hodgins / September 16, 2020 /

We all know that tantrums and meltdowns are a normal development in children’s behaviour. However, we don’t expect our children to be having them at 8, 9, 10 years old or, more do we? So, what causes this sort of behaviour? It can be a sign of DMDD (Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder.) It basically means…

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How to help your child when they are being hard on themselves

By Elaine Hodgins / September 9, 2020 /

As parents we often hear our children talking about themselves in a negative way, for example: “I’m stupid, I can’t do anything right, No one likes me, everyone hates me, I’m ugly/fat/skinny/spotty!” Some of the time these are just throwaway phrases or just the child wanting re-assurance that he’s actually ok. In other words, they…

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Sometimes it’s NOT Anxiety!

By Elaine Hodgins / September 2, 2020 /

Anxiety comes in many forms. If I said to you: “in your own words – what is anxiety?” would you be able to give me an answer? And would it be similar to what others have described it as? The answer is NO! The reason for this is because anxiety is a FEELING. We all…

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ANOREXIA NERVOSA – Going to University or College can be a Trigger

By Elaine Hodgins / August 26, 2020 /

Most parents fear the word “Anorexia”, as most of us know that it is a serious mental health condition which, if not taken seriously, can have fatal consequences. Anorexia has the highest mortality rate of the food related mental illnesses. As a clinical hypnotherapist and child behavioural specialist I have been treating children, teens and…

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My Child Seems so SAD – How Can I Help Him?

By Elaine Hodgins / August 19, 2020 /

As parents, we never want our children to be sad, or at least to stay sad for long, do we? The thing is, it is just as necessary for us to validate their pain or sadness, just as it is to acknowledge their success or happiness. Being their rescuer every time they feel sad is…

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